When I was in high school and college, one of the things I found the hardest wasn’t school.  No, the hardest thing was dealing with relationships… and breakups!

One thing I found helped the most was to create my own sort of closure after a break up.  I don’t mean the kind of closure the other person can give you, either — I mean the kind of closure you get by putting the person out of your life entirely!

For example, one way I created my own closure was by selling the jewelry guys gave me after the relationship ended.  Usually it took some time before I was able to do this, so I’d put the jewelry away until I was ready.  Selling gold usually means you get some good cash, though.  A little money to buy myself something nice (that didn’t have bad memories attached to it) usually helped me get into a frame of mind more quickly where I could sell the jewelry the guy had given me.

Another way I often created closure was to erase the guy as if he had never been in my life: throw away mementos such as pictures and letters, delete digital photos and emails, etc.  Again, it usually takes a little while before you are ready to face this kind of closure, but it is incredibly liberating when you are!

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